How To Deal With the Ex-Soulmate

If you’re looking for advice on dealing with that one person you once thought you were gonna spend your life with, sorry! I don’t have all the answers. All I got is some real ness.

This evening I was watching Joe Budden chase after his ex girl Tahiry on Love & Hip-Hop. And it resonated with me a bit. As much as I like to watch trash shows to ridicule peoples’ behavior, I felt sorry for dude. He’s got a girl that he flaunts but he’s still yearning for a piece of what he once had.

Confession time: that’s me.

Tahiry on the other hand mentions that half of her wants to have nothing to do with him, while the other half can’t let him out of her life.

Somehow, that’s me too.

My longest, and my last relationship got real. Feelings were real and I started imagining super long term situations. My ex was my best friend too.

When I got too frustrated with him post-relationship, I cut him off completely. But even then I couldn’t really escape him.

I struggle to be friends with him because…well, I can’t help it. Frustration has got me wondering if it’s worth it, though.

I wanna cut him off again, but I honestly don’t know if I can…

When is enough, enough? When do you stop giving second chances? When do you accept the forces that drove you apart from them initially? Or is the ex-soulmate a permanent problem?